你快乐吗？怎么样才算是快乐？
是每天都把笑容挂在脸上，亦或是做自己？
是在生活中追求每一个完美的细节，亦或是珍惜生活中每一个幸福的小片刻？
到底如何才能快乐，即使烦恼很多，即使人生里还是有不开心的时刻？
我想，我找到了答案。
自我接纳，就是我一直在学习的，也是我认为会带我走向快乐的秘诀。
或许我们不快乐，是因为我们不够爱自己，是我们接受不了自己的不完美，是我们不敢去正视自己的一些缺陷，是我们总是活得太累太疲倦，是我们总是太在乎别人而希望得到相等的回报，结果还是失落了。
有时候可能你真的觉得，无法做到“爱自己”，仿佛自爱是世界上最难的事。你恨透自己，你无法接受自己犯下了某个错误，或是你觉得自己不值得被爱。
有时候你会拿自己和别人来做比较，你觉得别人长得比你漂亮帅气，比你苗条，比你可爱，成绩比你优异，家庭比你富裕，你觉得自己总是比不上别人。你讨厌这样的你，你害怕这些不完美被别人拿来做比较，拿来开玩笑，你觉得自己不值得被欣赏。
有时候你会不想承认自己的确有些地方不够好，你不想去面对生活中的问题，所以你选择逃避，你觉得逃避是最好的方式，只有逃避才不会那么烦恼，你觉得这些问题不值得被正视。
有时候你真的非常非常累，你追求完美，你对自己特别的严厉，你希望把最好的都呈现给大家，你提醒自己不要让别人看见自己的脆弱，你把自己包装得完整无缺，你压抑自己的感受直到自己感到窒息，你真的好累，你觉得自己不值得被疼惜。
有时候你非常在乎别人是否过得开心，你希望你的存在可以给身边的人带来温暖，幸福，却往往忽略了自己开心与否，把自己的感受放到最后，才默默的希望得到别人同等的在乎与关心，你觉得自己再多的付出都不值得，因为别人不会像你关心他们一样的那么关心你。
亲爱的你们，要快乐，一定要勇敢。要勇敢的接受自己，接受自己的不完美，接受自己的每一个情绪和感受，接受自己给自己的爱，接受自己对自我的关心。只有当你真的学会自我接纳，你才会真的学会大大方方的接受别人对自己的疼惜与爱护。只有这样，你才会快乐。
活在当下，珍惜每个幸福的小事情。
其实我们每个人，都值得幸福，值得被爱。
希望你们每个人都可以找到，属于自己，快乐的方式。
给那些觉得自己不被爱不被在乎的人，我爱你们。
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Are you happy? How do you define happiness?
Does happiness mean that we have to always put the smile on our face, or to be who we are?
Does it mean that we have to pursue for perfection, or to appreciate every blissful moment in our life?
How can we find happiness, though there are some unhappy moments in our life?
I think, I have found the answer.
Self-acceptance, is what I am learning, and I think it will lead me to the path of happiness.
We are unhappy because we do not love ourselves, because we can't accept our imperfection, because we are so tired of life, and because we always care too much for others and hope to receive the same in return, and we felt so disappointed at the end.
Sometimes you might think that it's impossible to love yourself, and it seems like self-love is the most difficult task in this world. You hate yourself so much and you can't accept the fact that you have made any mistakes in life, and you think you are not worthy to be loved.
Sometimes you compare yourself with others, you think that others are prettier than you, cuter than you, their results are better than you, and they are richer than you, you always think that others are so much better than you. You are afraid that your imperfections will be treated as jokes, you think that you are not worthy to be admired.
Sometimes you resist to admit that you are not good enough, you even resist to confront the problems that you have encountered in life, You try to run away from your problems, and you think that running away is the best solution, you just hope that these problems do not even exist.
Sometimes you are so exhausted, you pursue for perfection, you are so strict to yourself to the extent that you want to perform the best in front of everyone, and you consistently remind yourself to hide your weaknesses. You conceal your feelings until you feel so suffocating. You are so tired of life, and you feel that you are not worth being cared for.
Sometimes you care whether your friends are happy or not, you hope that your presence can bring happiness to your friend, but you did not ask yourself whether you are happy or not, and hoping that your friends will care for you as much as you cared for them.
Dear friends, be brave if you want to be happy. Be brave to accept yourself, to embrace your imperfection, to acknowledge all your emotions and feelings, and accept the love you give to yourself. Only when you learn how to accept yourself, you will accept the love and care which is given by your friends and beloved ones.
Live in the presence, and appreciate every blissful moment from the little things in life.
All of us, are worthy, to be happy, and to be loved.
May you all find your own way of being happy.
To all those who feel unloved and not cared for, I love you.
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