#23: 致每个美丽的你 / You are beautiful

在 2016 结束前，想认真地回顾过去生活如何。

其实想回顾的原因并不是因为我特别怀念过去，但每一年快要结束的时候，我都会让自己静下心来回想这一年里发生的许许多多的事，然后用一种即淡然又期待的心情，迎接新的一年。

认真的说起来，要说 2016 是个好年，还挺难以启齿的，因为这一年，确实发生了许多不太美好的事情。

但是，其实想一想，如果这些不美好的事没有发生，我又怎么可能会去发现到，生活还有很多美好的人事物等着我去找寻呢？

特别想提关于 Appreciation Post 的故事。其实我为什么会开始进行这个 Appreciation Post 的活动，并不是因为看到别人也在做所以跟风，纯粹是因为发生了一些不怎么开心的事。

你现在应该很好奇吧，明明很不开心你还可以笑着说珍惜？当然我相信每件事都有一个，从伤心到绝望，再从绝望到释怀的过程，或许就是释怀之后才学会更懂得珍惜爱我的人。

但是其实我哭了很久，大概两个月吧。并不是在逃避，也不是在解决问题，因为有些问题根本没有解决的方法，今年很深刻的学到了不是所有的努力都有结果的。

那既然哭泣没有办法改变或解决什么，为什么还要哭呢？因为我不想再压抑了，我不想成为一个伤心却哭不出的人了，我不想做一个连自己的情绪都不敢面对的胆小鬼。

后来就在某一天，我仿佛听到内心发出的声音，在对我说，“哭够了，是时候画上句点，与其去为已经发生的事和已经失去的人而感到难过，不如好好珍惜陪在你身边的，珍惜那些愿意对你用心，愿意疼你爱你的人吧！”

后来我发现，曾经很心痛的，已经不那么痛了；曾经很在乎的，好像也没那么在乎了；曾经让人无法接受的，也慢慢学着接受了；曾经很害怕的，好像也变得不怎么可怕了。

到后来发现，其实痛苦并不是最可怕的，可怕的是自己的想象。把不美好的事，想像成巨大的不美好，让你真正害怕的并不是事情本身，而是你对此事所做出的可怕想象。

但是，你知道吗，如果你也愿意试一试，在这一些不怎么美好的事发生后，去想一想你还有什么值得珍惜的，值得感谢的，值得欣慰的，值得去爱的，心就不会再那么沉重了，日子就会是快乐超越伤感，幸福多于哀伤。

你很美丽，你不需要让挫折摧毁你，而是帮你成长。

你很美丽，你不需要让那些不爱你的人决定你要过怎么样的生活，而是变得更坚强。

你很美丽，你不需要因为别人的否定就怀疑自己是不是不够好，而是活得更漂亮。

生活有时挺艰难的，要一直保持乐观，要一直充满正能量，其实也不是件容易的事。所以有机会开心的时候就不要错过，因为人生最重要的，莫过于学会开心的过生活，即使生活疲惫，即使无人理解，即使挫折源源不绝，我们都不要抱怨，而是去感谢，感谢那个愿意听你发牢骚的人，感谢那个让你笑到断肠的人，感谢那个陪着你流泪的人，感谢那个对你不离不弃的人，也感谢那个一直爱着自己的你。

2016 年还有四天就结束了，如果你现在还想要抱怨生活有多么的不顺利，你就告诉自己你不会一直那么不顺利，总有一天，你可以过着你想过的那种生活，我相信你，也请你相信自己。

我们都独一无二，我们都很美丽，我们都值得被爱，值得拥有美好，值得彼此珍惜。

祝福每个美丽的你，2017 年过得更好，更快乐，更幸福，更懂得爱自己，也更懂得爱别人。

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Before 2016 ends, I just want to take this moment to reflect how my life have been.

The reason that I want to look back is not because I want to go back to the past, but just want to take a moment of silence, to think about what have I actually gone through this year, then move on to welcome the following year.

To be honest, it's very hard for me to say that 2016 is a good year, because there are actually many unhappy moments in this year.

But if all these unhappy incidents never happen, I might not realize that there are still lots of wonderful people and things that are awaiting for me to find out.

Just want to share with you all something about Appreciation Post. The reason that I started this activity, it's not because others are doing it, it's because of some terrible incident that I've encountered.

You might be very curious, how would I even started writing the so called Appreciation Post if I am unhappy? I actually believe that there's a stage in life that you will feel sad and hopeless, and at the end you will learn to let go, and I think I've learnt how to appreciate those who love me after experiencing all those unhappiness.

I've actually cried for quite a long period, for about two months I guess! I'm not trying to run away from problems, neither am I trying to fix it, because you know, not every problem can be fixed, so what I've truly learnt this year is that, not everything that you work hard for will pay off.

Since crying can't change nor fix any problem, why would I be so stupid to choose crying for such a long period? Because I do not want to suppress my feeling anymore, I do not want to be a person who can't even drop a tear when you are feeling sad, I don't want to be someone who is afraid to face their own emotions.

There was one day when I was alone, there's a voice in my heart saying, "Enough of crying girl, it's time to stop living like this, instead of being sad for what had already happened and for the people that had left you, why not appreciate and love those who are there for you!"

Then I realized, those heartaches are gone; those who I've once cared too much for, I don't even bother to care for them anymore; the things that seems so hard to accept, I've slowly learnt to accept it all; and the things that I've once so so so afraid of, it all turns out to be not that scary anymore.

Painful things that might happened in life is not that scary, your imagination is way more horrible than the incident itself. 

Maybe we can all try to think about, what is worth to be appreciated, to be grateful, and to be loved, when those hurtful things happened in your life. Maybe when you do this, you will be more light-hearted, and your life will be filled with more happiness.

You are beautiful, you don't need to allow those setbacks in life to destroy you, but to help you grow.
You are beautiful, you don't need to allow those who doesn't love you to decide how you should live your life, but to become stronger.
You are beautiful, you don't need to doubt yourself just because people disagree with you, but to live more happily than ever.
You know, you are beautiful just the way you are.

Life is quite tough at times, it's actually not an easy task to always stay optimistic and positive at all times. So when you have the chance to experience the true happiness in life, don't miss it! Because I always feel that the most important lesson in life is to learn how to be happy, even there are some points in life that you will feel super duper exhausted, not being understood by others, and encountering tons of obstacles and problems. Don't complain about the bad things in your life, one day you will look back and feel grateful that these things actually happened. Be grateful, for the people who listen to all your complaints, for the one who makes you laugh like there's no tomorrow, for the person who will cry with you when you are sad, for the ones who never leave you alone, and thank yourself, for never stop loving yourself.

Four more days to the end of 2016. If you are at the point in your life where everything seems to go wrong and nothing is right, just tell yourself it won't remain the same forever, someday, you will be able to live the life just the way you want it to be, and I believe in you, so please, have faith in yourself!

We are all special, and we are all beautiful, we are all worthy to be loved, worthy to embrace beautiful things in life, and to be appreciated.

Best wishes to every beautiful YOU, may your 2017 will be even better, happier, may you learn to love yourself more, and to love those who are around you.

Love,
Shiau Zhen